Enlighten Eats: 3 Stages To Heal Underlying Trauma Causing Binge Eating
1 in 7 people have binge eating disorder. This online course will help you heal the trauma that's causing your binge eating.
Do you struggle with binge eating?
If you’re like most people who binge eat, you may feel like you’re out of control and don’t know how to stop. You may also feel ashamed, guilty, and alone. But the truth is that binge eating is very common and can be healed.
In this online course, you will learn a step-by-step process for healing your underlying trauma that causes binge eating. You will also learn how to create a healthy relationship with food and your body.
And best of all, the course is completely self-paced so you can start immediately and fit it into your busy life.
Introducing the world's first and only 3-stage course teaching nutrition with IFS to heal trauma causing overeating
Enlighten Eats: 3 Stages To Heal Trauma Causing Binge Eating
Are you trapped in the Binge-Restrict Cycle?
I remember going to work but not really working at all. Instead all I would be thinking about was food.
What would I eat next? How many calories had I eaten so far today? Had I gained weight today? Should I skip lunch to make up for last night's binge?
- I knew my BMI, my resting BMI, my proper macro ratios, and how many calories I burned while exercising.
- I knew everything there was to know about nutrition, weight loss and dieting.
- But none of this information saved me from my urges, cravings, habits and compulsions.
It seemed like nothing could ever stop me from devouring everything in sight once my food fantasies had took a hold of me ...
- I remember waking up the next morning, still bloated and absolutely filled with self-hatred as I stared in the mirror at my puffy cheeks.
- I remember groaning with absolute self-hatred as I stepped on the scale. Hating myself, my body, my mind, life, everything.
- I'd start the day off in fear because deep down I was afraid of when the next binge would come. I lived in a constant anxiety. I was always looking over my shoulder (or down at my plate) to make sure I was safe.
- It was my mind that was the worst. I couldn't stop thinking! It was like I was constantly at war with my mind, my body and my very being.
Inevitably, the sheer gravity of my bingeing habits would always get the best of me, no matter how hard I tried to resist. I'd be sucked in. It was like food was the only thing I could see, like I was drowning, and I would have no choice but to eat.
I'd lay there afterwards, in a daze, too full to move. And then at some point I would try, again. Try to count, again. Try to eat the good stuff and avoid the bad stuff, again. Try to exercise again.
Every time I failed, I knew it was my fault. It was I who gave in. It was I who was weak. It was I who was pathetic, a creature of pathetic weakness, for I couldn't even stop myself from eating, and eating far far too much at that!
Every time after binge eating, I would go back to square one. I would research more. I would learn more. I would whip myself with the lash of discipline and force myself to try harder....
The Binge Eating Cycle Made Me Feel Powerless, Helpless, and Totally Out of Control & ... Even Though I Tried Everything - But Nothing Worked And Things Got Worse.
It's not fun to be trapped by The Binge Eating Cycle.
I started binging in high school because of wrestling.
- The constant weight cutting, the willpower mentality, the focus on calories in = calorie out above all
- Trying to burn off calories and lose weight through exercise, saunas, spitting, other crazy methods
- My social group and my only friends were wrestlers, so I desperately wanted their approval and validation
By the time college came around my relationship to food was horrible.
I had hoped that after high school and wrestling ended that I would change, But things only got worse in college.
My whole life I had been socially awkward. Starting college and being a closet binge eater made things infinitely worse.
My anxiety was crippling, but I was able to channel some of that anxiety into good grades, maintaining a slim muscular body, and appearing normal. That was what I learned growing up from my parents - to channel anxiety into productivity and blend in.
But on in the inside, I was a wreck. I was desperate. And my body and habits were beginning to reflect the inner turmoil of my mind, heart and soul ...
I became anemic because I at some point thought that meat was causing my body to become inflamed. At this point I was barely eating any carbs at all, except before I binged where I would dream about pastries, cakes, chocolates, and all sorts of candy ...
Binge eating became my best friend in my 4 years of college. After a day of university classes in Economics which I hated, all I could think about was going home, neatly getting a box of donuts on the commute back, and eating until my vision went dark, and I could no longer feel the pain I felt within ....
But this loneliness throughout college was killing me, and the only way I knew to reliably dull the pain for a moment was food, and other things like marijuana, shopping, sometimes drinking too much.
One time after a binge I even thought about making myself puke to feel better, I even put my finger down my mouth because my stomach was so full, but I didn't.
I was literally all alone.
- I was so filled with frustration.
- I just hated everything.
- My entire existence.
- I simply couldn't tolerate my life.
- I hated myself for my grotesque behaviors around food. It felt like the rest of my life would be okay if I could just eat like a normal person.
I even sought help too, in addition to the countless diets I tried on the side:
- I talked with a counselor.
- I briefly saw a nutritionist / dietitian.
- I tried Overeater's Anonymous too.
I've always been a hard worker. I've always been organized.
- So you can imagine how I felt when I tried to breathe deep, journal and manage my emotions like my counselor taught me - but then binged anyways.
- Or my frustration over understanding the importance of following a balanced meal plan like the dietitian explained to me, but then I would just overeat after our session!
- Or working the steps but then continually falling short.
Why? Why? Why?!?
Something about the spiritual tradition of Overeaters Anonymous (OA) did ring a bell, however.
This was the first time that I heard I would need to go on spiritual journey to transform my food addiction and compulsive eating habits.
In terms of spirituality, I had grown up a non-believer. God is dead, I would think, just like Nietzsche said. Back then I read a lot of psychology, philosophy, and my beliefs were essentially atheistic.
But inevitably, the way of the atheist falls short on a spiritual level ...
So I came across Buddhism, Yoga, Hinduism, and Taoism, and something connected with me.
At some point I became desperate enough to take a leap of faith into spirituality.
I remember my parent's disappointment when I told them that I was going to skip my college graduation and become a Zen Buddhist Monk instead.
I would go to Tassajara, a Zen Mountain training center located in the Big Sur wilderness mountain range of California.
I knew that deep down there was something I was missing. I knew that I would need to immerse myself in a setting where I could truly face myself.
To face the truth of my existence.
To find My Self, Me.
Trapped In The Binge Eating Cycle
Tried Everything But I Failed / Nothing Worked
Became Ready To Face My Innermost Self & Truth
I Was Desperate To Destroy My Negative Thoughts & Feelings At The Source So I Joined A Zen Monastery & Lived Without Internet For 13 Months (2012-2013).
I was blessed to live for 13 months at Tassajara, a Zen Buddhist spiritual community located in California near Monterey, where we practiced these 3 principles.
- Practiced eating based on a schedule
- Practiced mindful eating
- Practiced eating a variety of vegetables, whole grains and protein
First, my day began with mindfulness meditation from 5am-7am.
After practicing mindfulness in the morning, I began my day according to a schedule of work, meal, and snack times.
- breakfast at 8am
- lunch 12pm
- protein snack at 3pm
- variety of dinners at 6pm
- no weekends or vacations every day is the same at Tassajara
Before these 3 mindful living guidelines, I was a wreck.
But after a few months of these simple, yet powerful principles, I was able to:
- Stop 50-80% of my out of control binge eating
- Connect to my hunger-fullness and understand my body
- Improve my sleep and relaxation levels in life because I wasn't so moody and anxious!
- Hang out with more people socially because not thinking about food all the time
But Despite Making Great Progress, I Still Binged Occasionally
and Couldn't Stop Thinking About Food, and Being Self Critical
So what did I do?
I left the Zen Buddhist Monastery, and enrolled in graduate school at Santa Clara University to get my Master's Degree in Counseling.
I started going to therapy again, where instead of trying to change my thoughts and think positively, I actually for the first time started learning how to heal the trauma within me.
I made a powerful insight - while food and learning mindfulness were necessary steps, but they didn't fully heal the trauma within me, and I continued to binge.
My journey through therapy healing trauma were tough. The first few years of therapy took so much time and I backslid constantly.
However, my principles of eating on a schedule a variety of mindful meals definitely helped me, as well as the practice of mindfulness and journaling, so I still overall made progress.
I was learning about vitally important concepts which helped me to intellectually understand the source of my shame, binge eating and trauma causing all my problems
I learned about:
- Childhood attachment patterns including abandonment, shame, guilt and worthlessness
- How trauma remained frozen in the body and be triggered at seemingly minor incidents
- How habits could be triggered to fire automatically based on parental "modeling"
- How "parts" could manifest in physical symptoms like anxiety, tightness, nausea, pain or headaches
Unfortunately, my progress on healing trauma was jagged, and I continued to binge - but I did notice in the long term that my bingeing was going down.
- But how long would it take?
- When would I finally heal all my trauma?
- And why did this inner child stuff have to be confusing?
After years of therapy and making some progress on healing my inner child wounds, trauma, and painful emotions ...
how could I Quickly heal My trauma Causing My Binge Cravings and Obsessive Thoughts?
- I interviewed over 50 of the world's best experts on eating disorders,
- I worked as a Recovery Counselor for years as part of an Eating Disorder Treatment team at a residential facility
- I took ayahuasca and did psychedelic mushrooms many times
- I saw diverse coaches, trainers and therapists
I remember my answer came me in not another:
- Online webinar or coaching program
- Conference or book about trauma
- Presentation or TED talk
- Book or PDF
My answer came to me in the form of a family member, who had been struggling with bingeing for years, and was now seeing rapid progress.
A family member told me about a new therapy they were doing called Internal Family Systems.
They said their bingeing was rapidly going down, and I could hear the truth on their voice.
This family member was getting over bingeing?!
I felt jealous at first ...
- This person who hadn't lived as Zen monk was reducing their bingeing like me?
- This person who didn't have years of therapy working on their childhood trauma could stop emotional eating like I did?
- This person could basically get over bingeing in a few months of doing this IFS therapy, whereas it took me years?
Was my family member's sudden success the answer I had been looking for all along? Was the answer the my Zen Koan now manifesting in front of me in the form of a beloved family member?
Intrigued I began looking into Internal Family Systems (IFS) and finally found the answers I needed!
- IFS provided a map, and step by step sequence to work with my exiled trauma
- Emotions were separated into "parts" so I could easily tell make sense of my emotions and thought processes
- IFS gave me language about why my "parts" would fight each other and create such confusion within me
- IFS gave me the tools to Witness my inner child and be able to fully heal the trauma within me
Since then I've combined the nutrition principles I've learned as a Zen Monk ...
Culminating in my years long obsession asking the question "how can I heal trauma in the most effective way" ...
Being blessed to finally discover the evidence-based approach of IFS.
And now finally, after hundreds of clients, and dozens of testimonials which you can see below, years of refinement, study ...
I'm ready to reveal the culmination of my years of study on how to heal trauma to stop binge eating disorder, to you, today!
Introducing the world's first and only 3-stage program of nutrition with internal family systems to heal trauma causing overeating
Enlighten Eats: 3 Stages To Heal Trauma Causing Binge Eating
Here’s What You Get In Enlightened Eats
Get lifetime access to all 6 Chapters immediately after enrolling. The course is self-paced and should take you about 6 weeks. At the end of the course you'll know the exact steps and techniques to heal the trauma causing your binge and emotional eating.
Finally have some peace and quiet in your head
If you can't stop thinking about food, this course will teach you how to reduce internal noise and conflict. You'll have much more peace of mind!
End the cycle of binge eating and emotional eating for good
You can become much more free emotionally around food. The skills you learn will last a lifetime and will continue to develop too! You will finally be able to conquer that fear deep down that trauma causes.
Transform shame and guilt into power and freedom
Learn how to work your "protector-parts" so you can safely access your "inner child". Heal the stuck emotions like shame to be free. You will be able to do something you never thought possible.
Discover your own spirituality and how to connect with it
Uncover the inner source of light, wholeness and beauty that already exists inside of you, right now! You'll embody your authentic self and finally feel free, gain a sense of happiness, and inner peace.
Here’s what people are saying about Enlightened Eats
"After 44 years, I am 100% done with unconscious binge eating!
At first I was really nervous that I wouldn't be able to stick with the program, but I went for it trusting I would learn the tools to prevent self-sabotage - and I did!
"After 35 years, I am finally over dieting and my mind is at peace.
It's hard work, but different than anything you've ever done before. This isn't a diet or any type of restriction. It's about self-discovery and going on your own journey to discover your inner Intuitive Eater.
"I am no longer afraid of my inner child because my trauma is more or less gone now.
I can finally relax, not work so hard, and be kind to myself because the "parts" of me who felt compelled to diet, overeat etc have seen my inner child become healed.
3 Stages In Self-Paced Online Course
6 Chapters carefully planned and filled with resources so you start easy, gradually progress with milestones, and ultimately become heal the trauma causing binge and emotional eating.
Emphasis on learning new paradigms to make sense of food, psychology and trauma while simultaneously mastering satisfying, effective skills for long term growth without self-sabotage.
Chapter 1: Stage 1
Find peace of mind knowing that you're following a sound nutrition plan.
Stop feeling like you're a victim of your emotions.
Chapter 3: Stage 2 (Part 1/2)
Develop a deeper understanding of yourself and grow as a person.
Chapter 4: Stage 2 (Part 2/2)
Connect with your innermost feelings in a safe way.
Chapter 5: Transition to Stage 3
Feel safe and secure as you walk the path to healing trauma.
Chapter 6: Stage 3
Finally be free from the shame, guilt, and self-hatred that drives binge eating and emotional eating.
Get Exclusive Bonuses - Lifetime Access, Tools, and Interviews With REAL People Sharing Exactly How They Unburden Trauma and Stop Binge Eating
Get Lifetime Access to this course and any future editions. In addition, you'll also get Lifetime Access to a private community of 120+ members where you can get guidance and ask for support.
Tools and Workbooks
Access over a dozen exclusive tools and interactive workbooks within the course so that you can apply the lessons. The tools and workbooks will guide you through step by step so you always are certain you're headed in the right direction.
Exclusive Trauma Release Videos
See unedited videos from coaching sessions with private clients that demonstrate the lessons and workbook concepts. You'll cry tears of joy as you hear clients share their stories and transform in front of your eyes.
Listen To others Describe Their Journey To Freedom
Sam S - "I now rarely binge"
Casey O - "When I want to start binging, I have the tools to be able to stop"
Debbie M - "Jared is the coach who helped me get over my binge eating disorder"
Jack A - "Jared helped me pinpoint my triggers, cues and understand why I binged"
Here's How Your Life Will Change Once You Stop Binge Eating
Peace of mind around food and body
No more out of control moments around food getting up at night staring at the fridge!
Self-love and nourishment and compassion instead of constant food thoughts and obsession
Be free to live a meaningful life based on YOUR values instead of constantly thinking about weight and food
Hangout with friends and family, birthday parties and vacations without fear
Regain your easy, confidence and inborn intuition around food
Stop spending untold thousands of dollars on programs that simply lead to weight gain in the long run
Finally be free of yo yo dieting and weight cycling frustrations
Stop hating your body and shift into a sense of respectful body care
Learn to care for yourself, learn to meet your emotional needs for yourself and find wholeness
Tap into your sense of spirituality and inner light to heal, grow and transform
Oh, and did I mention, stop binge, compulsive, emotional, food addiction, and all sorts of disordered eating
What Past Students Email Afterwards
Frequently Asked Questions
This is a creative, engaging process you'll love once you get the hang of it. Don't think about your old calorie logs or writing every single bite of food. This is much different. And if you aren't satisfied email our support team for a 100% refund, no questions asked.
The course is self-paced, but you about 7-8 weeks for your first walk through. However, the skills taught in this course are lifelong skills. Everyone learns skills at different paces so the course length really depends on the person.
This is a really common fear so please know it's totally normal if you're worried about giving up food. Don't worry. No one will make you give up anything, nor are you "supposed to" or "should" give up food. We know foods incredibly important to you.
However, when you truly heal the internal conflict within you then you may want to relate to food differently. The choice will be yours.
Instead feeling of compelled to eat, you'll have more space to decide how you want to create your relationship to food and body.
Learning and absorbing the course materials is easy. However, the tough part is actually applying the skills and most importantly, learning from failure.
Overall, learning Intuitive Eating takes about 1 year to really integrate all the skills, if you are total beginner.
Namaste, the divine in me honors the divine in you
Eating Enlightenment is about the climb up to Self. I hope to see you on the mountain top, healed, whole, and happy.
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